Building your personal brand on LinkedIn does not have to feel like swimsuit shopping

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“LinkedIn is the swimsuit shopping of building your personal brand,” said Caryn*, a friend and client, over a videoconference. She had just hired me to help her tell the story of her career more powerfully and was reflecting on the resistance she felt around LinkedIn in particular.

Women would rather downplay what they’ve achieved than talk about it. This isn’t anecdotal. The vast majority of us — 69 percent — would rather diminish our own accomplishments than talk about them, according to a recent study I helped design surveying a nationally representative group of 517 women and 499 men. Think about that: We would rather seem less accomplished than we are.

Building your personal brand on LinkedIn does not have to feel like swimsuit shopping

Being seen as bragging, it seems — and this is anecdotal — is as threatening to women as water is to the Wicked Witch of the West. I see this in my work with women leaders across industries and age groups, from media and medicine to life coaching, from 20-somethings to 70-somethings. Extroverts, introverts, people who are behind the scenes and people who are out in front — it doesn’t matter. The aversion is (nearly) the same.

At the same time, according to our research, most women (83 percent) find it inspiring to hear about other women’s accomplishments. My partners in this research and I — all women business owners — call this discrepancy between wanting to hear about what other women have done, but not wanting to talk about ourselves, the “self-promotion gap.”

And it has to close.

Change the mindset to storytelling versus reciting a laundry list of accomplishments. Forty-two percent of women would rather clean the bathroom than talk about themselves in front of a room full of strangers, according to our research. About 47 percent would rather run errands in the rain. In the rain.

I wonder how the data might have shifted if we’d asked women how they felt about sharing their stories, specifically. The idea of sharing your accomplishments may call to mind listing your credentials, reciting job titles and regurgitating business speak for what you did at each of those jobs. Of course no one wants to do that; I feel bored just typing it. But most of us enjoy sitting through stories.

Our brains are wired for story, which is why we’ve been telling them for millennia. Stories create belonging; when we see ourselves in them, we step inside and feel a deep sense of connection. So if we shift the way we think about talking about our careers towards the idea of sharing a story, I wonder if that makes it feel more accessible.

As our research shows, there is altruistic value to self-promotion. I hope that fact alone inspires more women to start talking about their careers (and lives, while we’re at it) in bigger ways — after all, as women, it often feels easier to help other people than it does to help ourselves. “If you can see it, you can be it,” the old adage goes, describing the importance of role models to lifting up traditionally disenfranchised groups. A little girl meets a female CEO, for example, and believes she can be a CEO, too.

But getting more women to talk about their achievements isn’t just about sisterhood, or creating role models for each other on the path to growing women’s power. It’s about that, yes, but it’s also about declaring what you’re up to in the world, in order to attract meaningful opportunities.

Don’t compromise on your story. When you tell the story of your work — not just your job title, but what the work you do means to you, what it stands for—you become magnetic. It’s not about telling people what you think they want to hear; it’s about telling people what you want them to know. After years of working in strategic communication, I’ve come to see how tailoring messages about ourselves for our audiences too often leads to compromising the truth and power of what we actually want to say. By contrast, when we craft an authentic story about ourselves, one that rings true in our bones, and then when we share that story on- and off-line, we step into our power, big time.  We attract:

  • Employers
  • Gatekeepers like conference organizers and editors
  • Customers
  • Collaborators
  • And members of our tribe — people who dig what we’re up to and want in

I hope we can get to a point where women share what they’ve accomplished because it’s part of sharing themselves, of taking up space in the world, and that they can do this unabashedly, without apology, or guilt.

Learn from others. For anyone who remains unconvinced, I’d like to share some examples of the magnetic effect of telling your story from my work with women leaders.

The first time Angela published an article to LinkedIn, the organizer of a major conference in her industry reached out in the comments and invited her to keynote his event. It wasn’t just any article. It was one that amplified the core story she wanted to tell about herself — that of a technology executive who helped people bring their best selves to work. She declared this story in her LinkedIn headline; bolstered it in her LinkedIn summary, or bio; and amplified it with an article that made the idea of “bringing your best self to work” — and its business implications — crystal clear. The head of the conference read the article and wanted to hear more.

Also, learn how to swim. Here’s the thing: You’re always telling a story and leaving an impression through your words and actions. The question is whether you want to take the reins as narrator, or let other people try to piece together your story for themselves based on scattered or halfhearted clues.

With her clients and colleagues, Mira was a leader, not only in title, but also in presence and personality. She was always driving her team toward creating a higher quality product and a smarter way of working, all in service of changing the experience of giving and receiving healthcare in this country. But when I looked at her LinkedIn profile, all I saw were a bunch of bullet points regurgitating business jargon. She never shared anything about her team’s work, or the vision it was in service of. Online, her presence was limp, and small. Her vision, energy and drive were absent in a place where it would have the potential not only to attract juicy opportunities her way, but also, to galvanize people all over the globe.

Don’t be like Mira. If updating LinkedIn feels like swimsuit shopping, think of this: If you don’t have a swimsuit, you can’t swim.

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