There are so many things I could be doing right now, so many I’d like to do.
Getting my new apartment all organized and buying all the necessary and convenient supplies.
Networking to promote my business.
Networking to find the love of my life.
Doing the ‘inner work’ to clear my resistance to success.
Working out and exercising.
Catching up with old friends.
Developing and promoting business programs and events.
Planning my business activities for the next quarter or the next year or the big picture vision.
Making the decisions I’ve been putting off out of a fear of making the wrong one.
And the list can go on.
When I see a list this long, there’s only one thing I really want to do, at least for a short while: run away from it all, no phone, no computer, no work, no expectation, no nothing except time to breathe and be, watching the ebb and flow of the waves carrying my fear, doubt, overwhelm and any other draining emotion with it as it provides me with a clearer perspective.
And it is in moments like these that I have to remind myself even more frequently: I don’t have to have all the answers right now. In fact, I can’t.
And the more I try to figure it all out, like it’s all in my control and up to me to manipulate or design, the more overwhelmed I feel.
If it’s all up to me, I’m placing quite a heavy weight on my shoulders.
If I have to figure it all out, I would have to take into consideration areas that there are no ways I can fully comprehend. I may see a glimpse, but can I see how all the intricate pieces fit together across time and space?
The only thing that is even in the realm of something I can do anything about?
That next right step, that next one right thing.
No, I can’t know how all the business pieces fit together, but I CAN decide what I need to do next and then do it, all while knowing that the results are out of my hands.
No, I can’t know when and where I will meet ‘him’, but I CAN make that next phone call or clarify what is most important for me in a relationship.
When I focus on that next right step, I feel like I am moving forward and making progress, even if it’s small right now.
When I focus on that next right step, I feel like I can breathe again, like the thousand pound weight on my shoulders, trying to figure out how it all does and should fit together, has been lifted.
I don’t need to have all the answers. I couldn’t have them all even if I tried with every fiber of my being.
We can’t do everything, right now, all at once.
The only thing any of us can truly do at any one time?
That next one right step.
What is YOUR next right step?
What do you need to do to start taking that next right step right now?
Elizabeth Spevack is the founder of Heart and Soul Living (www.heartandsoulliving.com). Elizabeth is a Champion for Mental Wellness, building on her personal experiences with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and discussions with women who feel weighed down by the pressures of nearly impossible expectations and the pursuit of perfection. She is passionate about helping women break through the barriers of fear and self-doubt that are keeping them stuck, inspiring them to pursue that maybe unlikely dream and live a truly heartfelt and soulful life.